Does technology influence or control your thinking?

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” —Romans 12:2

A lot of things are influencing our brains today that our parents and grandparents never had to consider. Technology has molded our minds and adjusted our way of thinking. God is providing his people with a heightened awareness of this fact that can move Christians to the forefront of some discussions. Does technology influence our thoughts or actually control what we think? It’s crucial we consider the difference.

First the phone, then the radio, then TV

Alexander Bell patented the telephone in 1876. Twenty years later, the technology for “wireless telegraphy” was patented. Technology has been changing the world for 140 years and continues to do so. 

A telephone was once considered a great luxury, only found in the home of someone with considerable wealth. It wasn’t until forty years later, during the 1920s, that homes were commonly wired with phone lines. I remember when my parents bought a home with a second phone jack, which meant they could have a phone in their bedroom as well as the kitchen. It was the same phone line, but two locations in the house to make calls. I had all my phone conversations in the kitchen, using a wall-mounted phone. I still remember my dad coming home one day in a foul mood because he had been trying to call my mom to tell her he was running late, only to get a busy signal each time. (I had two sisters who used the phone too!) Now, everyone has their own number, their own privacy, and the ability to make phone calls at any moment, anywhere, and leave a message if needed. How has that impacted our marriages, our parenting, and our family time together? What conversations exist because there is no accountability to someone who might overhear? How much time can our kids spend on their phones simply because no one else is waiting to use them? We live in homes that don’t often require us to consider others’ needs. How has that changed us as people?

According to a Wikipedia article, in 1923, one percent of U.S. households owned at least one radio. Eight years later, a majority of homes had a radio, and that number reached seventy-five percent by 1937. I remember my mom and dad talking about the excitement their families had felt when they first bought a radio for their homes. Dad talked about rushing to get all his chores done so the family could sit together and listen to Abbot and Costello, Amos ‘n’ Andy, or Fibber McGee and Molly. The radio also brought news from the war, and everyone had someone they knew and/or loved who was fighting overseas.

The Golden Age of Radio soon transitioned to television. Only about one percent of households had a TV in 1948. That percentage grew to over fifty percent by 1953. Almost every home had a TV set by 1960. It was then that people began to be influenced by more than “words.” People began to dress like those they saw on television rather than those they saw every day. Father Knows Best set standards for family values, clothes, and hairstyles. 

People and families have changed because of technology. Parents, kids, and neighbors used to gather on a front porch each evening to talk. Later, they gathered around a radio to share a program and laugh together. Next, they gathered around a television to talk about the way the stars dressed, cooked, vacuumed, or went to work. I Love Lucy suggested life in the big city and the idea of marrying someone who wasn’t from the local neighborhood or school. The cultural differences were part of the storyline. 

Now, people carry their individual phones in their pockets or purses. We listen to the radio in the car, but we can “stream” only the kind of music we choose to hear. Typically, households have more than one TV, so kids can watch what they want while their parents do the same. And again, we can “stream” only those shows that we choose to enjoy. Sadly, we can watch shows and movies we would never have gone out in public to view and would never have watched with children present. 

Now, we have tablets and computers

We are still a decade away from fully understanding the impact that tablets and computers have had on people. Young families today are navigating these waters, trying to raise their kids while guessing at the impact these technologies will have on their futures. 

How has technology changed us? 

What happens to the family when they don’t share their time? What happens to our minds if we only hear one side of the issues of our day? What happens to the kids when their parents literally do not know what they are hearing, watching, or thinking about? 

Those may be the most important thoughts we will have this week. What happens when technology controls and influences our thoughts and perspective more than God?

God knew this day would come

One of the most miraculous things about Scripture is the fact that it says the same things to people today that it did to every generation of people that has existed. The truth we find in our Bibles is still the truth our great-grandparents and their great-grandparents heard. It might be the only truth that is able to bind everyone together in the future.

God intentionally preserved biblical truth so every generation could navigate the world. His word might be sitting on our shelves, contained in the music we choose to stream, watched on our televisions, and witnessed in the movies we watch. We can also access his word in the phones that we carry everywhere we go.

God is available to us in the same technology that entertains, informs, and influences the world.

Today’s question: Does technology influence or control your thinking?

Scripture taught our grandparents, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV). Most of us will probably read that verse in a version of the Bible that says something like, “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7 ESV). 

I like the King James version that describes the Spirit-led Christian as a person with a sound mind! Our world could use more of that kind of thinking. The ESV is a direct translation of the words Paul used. 

God gave every Christian the Holy Spirit, the very nature, character, mind, and power that enabled Christ to live a sinless life on earth. We do not speak often enough about the unlimited power each of us has been given to handle the joys, fears, changes, and influences that are part of living on this side of heaven. 

We will all be influenced by the things in this world. That’s why God provided the control of his Holy Spirit in our lives. Anytime you see the words “self-control” in Scripture, you can think of that as “a self, controlled by God’s Holy Spirit.” 

More changes are coming

Consider how technology has changed the world in the past 150 years. Think about how technology has changed you and those you love. Then imagine what changes could lie ahead. The Holy Spirit is the power our Creator God has given to his children so that through us, he can change the world.

Hear the Spirit of God say what he has always taught his kids, “This is the way, walk in it” (Isaiah 30:21). Teach that truth and expectation to all you are able to influence. Technology has dramatically changed our culture, but God’s unchanging Word is for every generation. His truth has always been, and will always be, perfectly the same.

God’s People Need a Time-out

All kids need a time-out once in a while. 

We had a chair in the utility room that served that purpose. The only things to look at back there were the washer and dryer. The “fun” was a few yards away, and the offender could hear it but not be part of it. 

Fifteen minutes on the time-out chair seemed like an eternity to a young child, but it was usually enough time to think about their mistakes and how to ask for forgiveness. The discipline served as a reminder that the bad behavior just wasn’t worth repeating. 

All of us need a time-out chair in our lives if we want to live a life of obedience. 

What should God’s people look like? 

God’s people aren’t quite as easy to distinguish in our world today. 

Years ago, we were told to be “seeker friendly” instead of “holier than thou.” We didn’t want the people in the world to think they didn’t belong in our churches. We wanted them to know that we didn’t think we were better or more loved by God than anyone else. We wanted everyone to know that they could bring their sin to the altar just like we did.  

We stopped dressing up for church because we didn’t want people to feel uncomfortable or be able to say they didn’t have the proper clothing for worship. We stopped singing hymns because visitors to our churches didn’t understand them and it was difficult to sing them. We wanted to make non-Christians feel more welcome, and they did.  

A lot of good things happened when we “relaxed the rules,” but some wrong things happened as well. 

Our churches look more like the world these days, but so do God’s people. We didn’t want to look “holier than thou” so we stopped trying to look holy. 

The problem is, that was never a biblical idea. 

The Bible says God’s people are supposed to look holy to a world that isn’t. 

What does “holy” look like? 

Recently, I gave myself a time-out. I just sensed that God wanted to make some adjustments in some of my behaviors. The time-out chair wasn’t particularly comfortable. It felt a bit isolated from what everyone else was doing. And, I wanted down before God said it was time. 

I hope I spent enough time to think about the mistakes, think about how to ask for forgiveness, and remember that the bad behaviors just weren’t worth repeating. 

I became particularly fond of 1 Peter during my time-out. 

Peter knew about “misbehaving” and he knew how to fix it 

Peter told the early Christians, “As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy’” (1 Peter 1:14–16). 

So, what does “holy” look like? 

Actually, the rest of 1 Peter describes it. The next time you sit in your time-out chair, spend some time in those words. It isn’t hard to know what holy looks like; it’s just hard to look holy. 

Peter had made his share of mistakes, so his words are the voice of experience. 

We all need a spiritual time-out chair once in a while 

When we sat our kids in time-out, we usually told them to think about what they had done and what they needed to do in the future. That’s the purpose of a spiritual time-out as well.  

Christians wanted to be more seeker friendly, but the result was that many of our churches started looking more like the seekers than the One we were supposed to be seeking. 

We need to take some time and think about our most important purpose. God said we were supposed to be holy. Jesus said we were supposed to “make disciples.”  

Consider these questions in your spiritual time-out chair: 

  • Does my life indicate that I am a holy child of God?
     
  • Is my calling about making friends or disciples? 

Hopefully, we can make disciples and friends. However, practically speaking, some friendships will suffer if we choose to be holy. Holy and popular don’t always run in the same circles. 

If our churches and our people want to be holy, some of the seekers won’t think we are very “friendly.” 

When the fifteen minutes are up

The time-out chair usually did the trick. I could put a wailing, misbehaving three-year-old in the time-out chair and, after fifteen minutes, he was like a different child. 

Sadly, he might end up back there later in the day. Consistent good behavior requires a lot of maturity, but there is grace for the growing. 

Spiritual time-outs take time, but the goal is maturity. Thankfully, there is a lot of grace for the growing. 

And Peter told us what to do when we are ready to get out of time-out. He said, “Preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ” (1 Peter 1:13). 

When the fifteen minutes are up, we should be wiser and ready to go. 

We have prepared our minds to fulfill our purpose. We are sober-minded, knowing our goals are more like God’s. And we have been recipients of the grace that we are to give to others. We are focused on the revelation of Jesus Christ and ready to live the holy life “our Dad” wants us to live. 

We are called to be holy

Why did God give his children such high standards for our lives? 

Why did God think we should be, or could be, holy?  

Peter answered those questions like this: “You are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9). 

He loves us and wants us to be holy 

I imagine my kids thought I was too hard on them at times. But, I adored my boys and had really high standards for their behavior. 

So does God. 

My boys learned a lot sitting in time-out—and so will we. 

If you need an “attitude adjustment” or some changes in your behavior, head to the time-out chair to think. God will tell you when you can get down. 

We are all on the road to spiritual maturity, and those rest stops come in handy. Holiness is hard, but it has been promised that we will grow up one day. 

We will be holy because he is holy. 

When Fear is Real and Reasonable

Sometimes evil has a face and a name.

What kind of person grabs a little girl off the street, from her mother’s hand, and takes her somewhere to abuse her?

But that happened in Fort Worth, Texas. Thankfully, some heroic citizens worked with police and the little girl was found and rescued.

She is safe today, but will she and her family ever feel safe again?

I didn’t want to write about this story because everything about it is sad and dark. But her rescue has been described as a miracle. I wrestled with this blog post, not wanting to think about this story, but knowing that a miracle should be discussed.

The rescue was a miracle, but healing will require a choice.

Most of the time when Christians write about fear, the spiritual lesson is “fear not.” Jesus often told his disciples not to be afraid, even when they had every right to feel fear. He taught them not to worry because God loves them.

But how could that mom feel anything but fear as that car drove off with her little girl inside? How will she ever not worry? She was just walking down the street, holding her daughter’s hand—and evil succeeded.

For that matter, how do we not worry when our fears are both real and reasonable?

Does God ask the impossible of us?

The simple answer is yes.

The spiritual answer is found in:

  • Luke 1:37: Mary said, “For nothing will be impossible with God.”
  • Matthew 19:26: Jesus told his disciples, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
  • Philippians 4:13: Paul said, “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”

It seems like God has asked Christians to walk through this world with enough faith to believe the impossible is possible.

Is “fearlessness” too much for God to ask?

The impossible is impossible for us, not God.

There is a mom in Fort Worth whose life has been permanently changed. She has known fear at a level most of us will never experience. That said, all of us will experience real and reasonable fears. Everyone will face the impossible choice that Jesus called us to make when he commanded us to “fear not.”

The only choice we will have in our moments of very real, very reasonable fear, is to know that the impossible is only possible with God. The only answer to some fear is knowing God “can” because we also know we “can’t.” It isn’t possible for human beings to live without fear. It is possible for human beings to trust God is bigger than whatever we are afraid of.

A lot of our fears are real and reasonable. Evil exists. Bad things happen. We know that God can protect, but we also know that sometimes his choice is to walk us through the pain or fear, rather than remove it.

Is it possible to trust that God will be enough for our real and reasonable fears?

Jesus, help our unbelief.

Jesus sent his disciples out to do ministry in his name. They encountered a man whose son was possessed by an evil spirit. The disciples tried to cast out the demon but weren’t able. When Jesus walked into the situation, he told the son’s father to bring the boy to him.

The father had been disappointed by the disciples but handed his son to Jesus, saying, “If you can do anything, have compassion on us and help us” (Mark 9:22). Jesus reacted to the man’s words, saying, “‘If you can!’ All things are possible for one who believes” (v. 23).

Everything in me relates to the father in this story and not to Jesus.

As I write this blog, a wonderful friend and mom is admitting her cancer will win and she will soon go to heaven. Both she and her kids seem too young for this to be happening.

A man we know needs a new heart to live, but he will need to wait to see if a heart will become available.

And a Fort Worth mom in the news will bring her little girl home from the hospital with physical healing, but recovery from her emotional pain will be more difficult.

I know that many people who will read these words have similar stories of their own.

I hope all of us will remember the words the possessed boy’s father prayed. He looked at Jesus and said, “I believe; help my unbelief!” (Mark 19:24). The Lord understands our struggle but wants us to trust him anyway.

My favorite prayer for real and reasonable fears

David understood fear. King Saul, and many others, wanted him dead. David wrote these words in Psalm 56 that I have found comfort in praying when I face real and reasonable fear. David wrote:

Be gracious to me, O God, for man tramples on me;
all day long an attacker oppresses me;
my enemies trample on me all day long, for many attack me proudly.
When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I shall not be afraid.
What can flesh do to me?
(Psalm 56:1–4)

It is when, not if, even for the faithful.

It is impossible to walk through this life without fear because fear is a reasonable response for any human being.

That said, when we are afraid, there is something to do. We need to continually and faithfully decide what we are going to do with our fear. Some fear is real and reasonable, but we can ask God to do the impossible and give us the strength and peace to survive even our greatest fears.

When evil is real, we will have to trust that God is real too. When fears are defined by a doctor or a set of circumstances, our choice is defined by God. When we are afraid, we need to be like David and understand that God is larger and stronger than anything that can attack our earthly lives. We can trust God to handle what we can’t.

Some fears are impossibly difficult for us, and it is difficult to believe our faith is sufficient. God understands. And Jesus promised us that we don’t have to fear. Jesus stepped out of his grave and proved Christians will too. So, we can pray the words of that father, saying, “I believe. Help my unbelief.” We can echo King David’s words: “I shall not be afraid. What can flesh do to me?”

We can believe that, with God, even the impossible is possible for our greatest fears.

A little girl was hurt, but she was also saved. The two people I know who desperately want to continue their earthly lives also know they will live eternally in heaven. Fear and pain are real and reasonable, but so is our faith.

When you are afraid, trust in God. He is as real as your fear, and many years of ministry have taught me that God is enough for all the real things that happen in this world. And God’s promise can be trusted for all the real joys that will reward our faith.

Lord, we believe; help our unbelief.