Why complain when we can proclaim?

As I sit in the utter stillness of my uncluttered, now-clean home, I realize how quickly I am missing the chaos of my four grandchildren racing through it. We had all four for a few days of their spring break and it was a crazy, exhausting, wonderful blessing. 

My feet and knees are glad for this chance to sit and write while my thoughts are directed toward my “grands.” If the Lord chooses to tarry, these kids are the future of our family, as well as our culture and our faith. 

As I wonder what their futures will hold, I’m comforted by the knowledge that I know the One who holds their future. 

The best thing about old age and gray hair is . . . 

Psalm 71:18 says, “So even to old age and gray hairs, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim your might to another generation, your power to all those to come.” 

The best thing about old age and gray hair is the perspective age provides for the most important things in life. God has been on his throne from the very beginning and has never stopped moving our world toward eternity. The God of our ancestors will be the God of our grandchildren and their grandchildren, if the Lord tarries. 

One of my grandsons is obsessed with dinosaurs. We looked at websites and he told me all he knew about each of the species. We played with plastic replicas of different dinosaurs and he could name every one of them. We even discovered that Google Assistant could play videos and recordings of the way those dinosaurs sounded. He is five and lives with no skepticism about what he hears online. 

I didn’t have the heart to tell him there weren’t microphones or a written language to record information during the time dinosaurs roamed the earth. Pretty much everything he took as fact could only be an educated guess. Maybe I’ll wait to tell him that when he is six or seven? 

One day I hope to tell him that the only One who is sure about what dinosaurs sound like is the God who made them. The most important thing I can do with my time is follow the psalmist’s wisdom and “proclaim his might to another generation.” My great priority needs to be helping the members of my family and others live with the certainty of their eternal lives in heaven. I want to do all I can to help my grandkids know and love Jesus. 

Wise words from C. S. Lewis 

My husband and I were talking about what the world might be like when our grandchildren are grandparents. Every generation has been unsure about the next generation and wondered if their lives will be as good or better than their own. Yet, each generation has earned their own trials as well as their own victories. Paul knew what he was talking about when he said, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). Every generation makes some mistakes and the next has to chart a different course as a result. 

  1. S. Lewis wisely said, “Each generation exercises power over its successors: and each, in so far as it modifies the environment bequeathed to it and rebels against tradition, resists and limits the power of its predecessors.” 

My dad used to worry about the video games my boys enjoyed playing. He thought they should be outside running, working, or fishing! He wasn’t wrong, but he also wasn’t completely right. Technology has widened the generation gap in multiple ways. When my dad became an elderly man, I told him about a friend of mine who had also worried about those video games but was grateful for them later. Her son, who was a big fan of those games as a child, grew up to use similar technology to help fly drones into a war zone so that soldiers didn’t have to lose their lives in the battle zone. 

C.S. Lewis was right to say that one generation exercises power over its successors. Every new generation is better at some things but also needs to respect some things from the past. Traditions usually exist for an important reason. 

Biblical faith, strong churches, Christian values, and the changed lives of Spirit-led people are a great asset to the next generation. Jesus taught us to love God and others, and that will always be the most important commandment. 

How will we proclaim God to the next generation? 

We have an important choice to make with our witness to the next generations. We can complain or, as the psalmist encouraged, proclaim. John Wesley, the famous Methodist preacher, said, “What one generation tolerates, the next generation will embrace.” The older generations should embrace change when those changes proclaim God. 

The music in our churches might be different, but it is a good thing if it proclaims God to the next generation. God evaluates the success of our worship like the psalmist. Did we proclaim Christ to the next generation? 

I don’t love contemporary music as much as I love the music of my youth. But I remember my parents saying the same thing. I worry about the wars and rumors of wars. So did the disciples Jesus was teaching those words to. We have a lot of concerns for the future, but none more important than this: Are we proclaiming God to the next generation? 

Don’t worry. Love, God 

John Wesley also said, “I have never known more than fifteen minutes of anxiety or fear. Whenever I feel fearful emotions overtaking me, I just close my eyes and thank God that He is still on the throne reigning over everything and I take comfort in His control over the affairs of my life.” 

Jesus commanded his followers to “fear not.” John Wesley took that command to heart and accomplished more than most men ever will for God’s kingdom. We don’t need to worry about the future when we trust the One who owns it. 

Let’s put our gray hair and old age to good use. Those who are younger should be able to trust the wisdom of those who have lived with Christ’s priorities for most of their lives. Our families and our culture will be blessed by the older generations who choose to proclaim instead of complain. No generation will live perfectly because no generation ever has. We can trust God’s grace and power for everyone. God will always choose to forgive and save until Jesus returns. 

Fifteen minutes is John Wesley’s challenge for our worries. Go ahead and stew about the future for a few minutes, but then choose to lay those thoughts at the foot of the cross and thank God that he is still on the throne. 

God is guiding our future toward heaven. God will measure the success of our worship and our witness by the motivations of our hearts. Whatever age we are, we have a spiritual responsibility to proclaim God to the next generation. 

How will you do that today?

One Moment Changes More

Sometimes one moment will change many more. 

With news of the coronavirus, it could be the moment of the next handshake or the choice of a seat at the theatre. 

We trust traffic lights to control all of those who are driving, but last week I saw someone run a red light and narrowly miss two cars as a result. 

That moment could have become life-changing—or life-ending—for several people.

An important moment thirty-four years ago today 

What has been your most significant moment thus far? 

Happily, mine occurred thirty-four years ago today when the nurse placed my oldest son, Ryan, in my arms. I became a parent that day, and that one moment has changed almost every moment since.  

Parenting is a lifelong relationship, but not all of our children belong to our immediate families. Some of our children are older than we are. Most are probably close in age, and some might be much younger. 

We might be parents naturally, and we are likely working hard to lead our kids to faith in Christ. 

But all of us who are Christians have been called to become spiritual parents to spiritual children as well. 

Who were your spiritual parents? 

Who helped raise you spiritually? 

If you are like me, it’s a long list. Those people were my teachers, my examples, my accountability partners, and my friends. Just this morning I was blessed to read an article a friend had written about her increased passion for quiet time with the Lord each day. 

I’m coming out of an extremely busy three weeks and was reminded of my own need to seek quiet time with God for the sake of my soul rather than for the sake of a blog post or Bible lesson. I needed to be “parented” this morning and I’m grateful for her teaching.  

Every Christian who has matured in the Lord will parent others in the faith. That is how God intended evangelism to work.  

Who are your spiritual children? 

I was teaching a passage in 2 Corinthians last week that Paul wrote to Christians saying, “ We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians; our heart is wide open. You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted in your own affections.  In return (I speak as to children) widen your hearts also” (2 Corinthians 6:11–13). 

Paul told the ancient church in Corinth that he thought of himself as a parent to them, and he loved them like a father loves his kids. He asked them to love him as they would love a parent.  

Paul loved the young, growing Christians in Corinth despite their ongoing attraction to the wrong influences in their lives. He told the church that it was time to mature in their faith and separate themselves from unholy things.  

A spiritual parent wants the best for their children in the faith. Whom do you feel that way about today? Whom has God called you to parent spiritually? 

What is spiritual parenting? 

Evangelism 

Quite often, your spiritual children are people the Lord has brought to your life who need to be born again. 

Commitment

There is no way we can invest our time and energy into everyone we meet. But there are some people we are called to make a greater commitment to than others. 

You will sense that God has given them to you to mentor, not just befriend. 

Who is watching you as an example for Christian living today?

Discipline

Every good parent disciplines their kids, for their sake. We want our kids to be strong in the world, know how to behave, and know how to relate well to others. 

Spiritual parents want their kids to be strong in the Lord. They need to know how God wants them to behave in the world and how to relate as a Christian to others. 

Discipline is about exchanging wrong or weak behaviors for better ones. Disciplining kids is one of the toughest jobs for any parent, and the same will be true for those God has given us to parent spiritually as well.

Unconditional love

There is literally nothing that either of my sons could do that could cause me not to love them with a deep and unconditional love. That is the love God gives naturally to every mom and dad. 

One of the best ways to recognize your spiritual children is to sense a heightened concern or compassion for the person. We can’t mentor everyone, but we are called to mentor some. 

Whom has the Lord caused you to think and care about at a greater level? 

The difference between work and chores 

Paul wrote to the church in Ephesus about the gifting of the Holy Spirit. He said, “And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ” (Ephesians 4:11–13). 

A “saint” is a person who has received Jesus as their Lord and become a child of God. 

The “work of the ministry” is the work that causes others to know, love, and walk through this life as an obedient child of God. 

We are called to live like our Lord lived, “to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.” 

The spiritual teaching and nurturing we give our “birth-kids” are the chores we have been given. Chores are the work we do around our house.  

Work is what we do when we leave our homes. 

Which people has God called you to invest your time and Christian influence in who are not in your home? 

Consider that the “work” of your ministry. You have spiritual children the Lord wants you to teach and nurture as well. 

Evangelism is simply growing your family 

There is a spiritual gift of evangelism, but all of us are lifestyle evangelists. Your life is the most influential sermon you preach. You witness to people all day, every day. 

Has your sermon caused some people to know Jesus? 

Does your lifestyle preaching help others walk with Jesus and live “to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ”? 

All of us should have a growing family, forever. 

One moment changed many more 

The nurse placed Ryan into my arms and I became a parent. I will be a parent for the rest of my life. And it is my great joy to see Ryan parenting my grandkids to know and love the Lord. 

We were tucking Ryan’s kids into bed this past weekend when my granddaughter said, “We need to sing our songs.” 

I listened while she and her three-year-old brother sang the verses to “Amazing Grace.” 

This morning, one of my Bible students became my spiritual leader. 

“Kids” grow up to have children of their own. That’s how God intended it to be—naturally and spiritually. 

I hope all of us, including God, will enjoy a growing family for the rest of our lives.